She will never walk again because of her refusal to do PT. She won't let them place her in wheelchair. Shes laying in bed stiff as a board . Shes angry and yells at staff trying to change her brief or bathe her. She isn't in pain she says except when being moved . Staff have tried giving pain meds before cares but she still fights them. She's terrified of falling . She's on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds to no avail. She's talking with a psychological therapist about her life changes etc. Nothing is helping. I don't even want to visit her anymore . It's too depressing and aggravating to see her act like this. She's always been social so this is a complete 180. I'm at a loss what else can be done . I've tried everything to motivate her and let her be in control of her destiny . I guess I'm just needing to voice my frustration since she's decided to give up. She's getting bed sores too because of refusing to be turned.
Mom was in hospice for 18 months.
Call hospice and they will someone out to evaluate your mother.
continue . She is no longer in control of her own destiny . She needs you to be understanding of the losses she is experiencing . Stop trying to motivate her . It aggravates you and her . Her quality of life especially with contractures and bedsores is dismal . Keep Mom comfortable as her condition deteriorates.
Your previous posts mention some dementia as well . This made it more difficult for Mom to attempt to recover .
To make this kind of decision (on your mom's part) means that her mind is not fully functioning. Her quality of life is now and will almost certainly remain very poor. She needs the relief of final resting to end what is now simply daily torment.
Go for comfort care as soon as possible. I am so very sorry. If only we were allowed to take our final exit when we are finished with life. But alas, we are not. So comfort is your goal. You are standing witness to awful devastation of mind, body and spirit. It doesn't get more tough.