She hasn't been diagnosed with dementia or alzheimers. In fact, she's pretty sharp except a couple of instances where she had zero memory of something she did two weeks before. But there seems to be a lot of talk about this paranoid issue on this site so I'm hoping you can help.
Then if that’s not the problem they can have Mom do cognitive testing for dementia/alz . Everyone is different . Many can still appear “ pretty sharp “ in the beginning .
Your mother's extreme paranoia is a definite sign of dementia too. Or something else medically wrong, but my bet is on dementia. Look for other signs. Getting meds mixed up, Telling stories, forgetting appointments, putting things where they dont belong like butter in the cabinet or keys in the freezer, forgetting how to get to a familiar location, trouble with finances, etc.
Good luck to you.
I agree with Waytomisery's post, have your Mom checked for an Urinary Tract Infection as such an infection can cause strange behaviors, such as anger, and seeing things. The test is fairly easy, pee in a cup (well, sometimes not so easy). If it is an UTI, the doctor will prescribe antibiotics.
On the other hand I just read in Perth NY, there was a murder suicide of an elderly couple.
So I don't believe you can be to careful, in this.
Please fill in your profile for us; this will help us know more about your mother and about you. It will help us give answers that make more sense.
You say that your mother is not diagnosed with Alzheimer's or dementia? Based solely on these accusations (I am assuming you have never observed any reason to think these statement might be true?) alone it is time for a good evaluation with her own MD. State with general exam, including urinalysis. Ask for a referral to neuro psyc.
I think that the next time something like this is said you need to sit mom down at the table and say:
1. Mom, why do you think hubby may be trying to hurt you?
2. Why do you think hubby would want to hurt you?
3. How is hubby trying to hurt you, and when has this occurred?
Next step quite honestly is telling your mother that you will accompany her to the local police office or sheriff to discuss this.
We know nothing about your mother and her husband. Only you have the information to make an educated guess here and to be honest, in absence of a diagnosis such things cannot be ignored.
Has you mother given any indications she would like to separate from her husband?
Again, give the three sentences you have posted regarding what sounds shocking if not complicated, this can't be ignored.
Mom could be having mini strokes too.