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I serve as POA. However, she will not allow me to help her finalize her will, taxes, etc. Her attorney has done 3 drafts of her will with no execution.
This is a tough one. I have a 97 year old friend who lives alone and is sharp as any 40 year old. She reads a book a day, cooks, plays Jeopardy daily, does crossword puzzles, and takes care of all of her finances. It is really amazing! I have also know someone who was failing to thrive in their mid 50’s, and declined rather quickly.
Maybe her lawyer could visit her and stress the importance of completing her will vs not completing it. To let her know that it has nothing to do with how long she will live. A trip to the doctor is also important to find out if she is still able to make these decisions.
I also knew if a woman who was quite wealthy, and she kept changing who would benefit from her will on a regular basis. She would fluctuate between two of her children, and two nephews. The nephew I knew, kept calling her on a regular basis, and he wound up being her final choice of beneficiary. I felt like he was possibly only calling her, for his own chance at a financial windfall. It is so sad how many people care more about money than their loved ones. I think it makes the elderly on edge about who to leave their money to, because they question if they are truly loved by different people or not.
I am pretty sure that since your mother made you her POA, that she loves and trusts you. So, the lawyer should be able to wrap this will matter up for her if you let him know your concerns. It would be so sad for the state to get something she intended you to have.
I think she may then die intestate. That would mean someone gets appointed as "administrator " of her estate, files probate and handles as an executor would; division of her assets would occur according to the dictates of the state itself. Look up the law on dying intestate in your own state. You cannot exercise your POA until she has dementia to the extent she is legally incompetent and at that time she couldn't do the will, so you may just need to let this go. Sounds like she has some weird idea that if she doesn't do this she won't die?
Best of luck. Her attorney with his unsigned documents can verify all this for you.
Sounds like she may have the beginnings of Dememtia. You need to get her to sign off on her Will. Once she has full blown Dementia, you can't do anything. Get her evaluated by her PCP. If Dementia is found get a doctor to declare her incompetent to invoke your POA. Then take over her finances.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Maybe her lawyer could visit her and stress the importance of completing her will vs not completing it. To let her know that it has nothing to do with how long she will live. A trip to the doctor is also important to find out if she is still able to make these decisions.
I also knew if a woman who was quite wealthy, and she kept changing who would benefit from her will on a regular basis.
She would fluctuate between two of her children, and two nephews. The nephew I knew, kept calling her on a regular basis, and he wound up being her final choice of beneficiary. I felt like he was possibly only calling her, for his own chance at a financial windfall. It is so sad how many people care more about money than their loved ones. I think it makes the elderly on edge about who to leave their money to, because they question if they are truly loved by different people or not.
I am pretty sure that since your mother made you her POA, that she loves and trusts you. So, the lawyer should be able to wrap this will matter up for her if you let him know your concerns. It would be so sad for the state to get something she intended you to have.
Best of luck to you both.
If you have POA and it is active, you can probably sign the off on the taxes on her behalf. Ask her lawyer about that.
Fortunately you got the POA done, just before dementia.
You cannot exercise your POA until she has dementia to the extent she is legally incompetent and at that time she couldn't do the will, so you may just need to let this go. Sounds like she has some weird idea that if she doesn't do this she won't die?
Best of luck. Her attorney with his unsigned documents can verify all this for you.