My mother is 82 years old. We live together and I take over when caregivers leave. She’s starting to make up stories about me and I’m concerned.😟 She’s starting tells caregivers lies, and making up stories about me and my mother needs help. She’s bi polar, schizoid, and possibly early dementia. She has hurt me in the past telling caregivers lies, and I don’t feel safe with her anymore.
I couldn't agree more that the two of these folks now need to separate from one another. It is ending to be harmful to them both. If Lavoy is living with mom she should make other arrangements for her life; if mom with Lavoy then that needs to be fixed. Mom would need to get an apartment or be placed.
I will recommend again, as I always do in the case of mental illness, the book, a memoir, by Liz Scheier titled Never Simple. This book tells of Ms. Scheier attempting to intervene to help her mother along with social workers of city and state of New York. This went on for decades, and all to no avail.
Truly, not everything can be fixed.
Were I you I would keep a diary of her claims every day, and how you responded to her. Short and sweet. Just this:
March 20th. "Mom claims I pushed her today. I didn't. I reassured her. 10 a.m.
"Mom much more calm this afternoon and enjoyed her lunch. 2 p.m.
March 21. I am concerned Mom is confabulating more; thinks I am causing her to fall. I have checked for a UTI and her urine is clear.
That will do nicely day by day and you can pull that out for any visitors with any authority.
These diaries, kept in a composition book with no erasing and no mark outs or tearouts is admissible in court as a documented record. You should also speak with Mom's doc about these claims so that's ON RECORD with her MD.