I have to assist her to a commode and she will sit there and do nothing. This gets especially often towards evening. Sometimes every few minutes. She refuses to try to dribble in a daytime depend. She thinks she is going to wet her pants. She is 92 and probably has never wet herself. I think her dr. who is very nice is tired of my calling. Is it possible she has an over active bladder. I wipe her so that she does not get another UTI.
Try changing her position for 5-10 minutes before she gets up to go to the bathroom.
If she is in a recliner recline it a bit more. If she is sitting upright, recline her. If she is reclined or in bed sit her up for a bit.
Any of those changes might allow the bladder to empty a bit more