She is married and lives at home. She also has outbursts of anger. We just can’t get her to even try one. She says nothing is wrong with her. It’s everybody else. Just need some advise on how to help her understand that it wouldn’t hurt to just try it. Thanks.
Yes, there are reported side effects on all drugs. Most of us have even experienced side effects of drugs. Doctors practice medicine. It has never been an exact science. So it’s not uncommon that meds will need to be adjusted or changed from time to time BUT we don’t get all of the side effects listed on every drug that we take.
I hated when my mom read those inserts! I hated when she watched the news! If she saw anything about a recall I couldn’t convince her it was only a certain brand of peanut butter or whatever. Yes, it’s stressful and I understand how you ended up telling your mom that you couldn’t do it anymore. I wish I had done that years ago. Could have saved myself lots of heartache.
I had/have my own mortgage. I live in a tiny 1000 square foot apartment in Brooklyn. There was just no way for me to be mom's caregiver, but I would have said no in any event. I was not cut out to do that.
I guess I was fortunate to know that in advance.
That's when I sat her down and said "Mom, I can't do this anymore".
She wanted to know what I was talking about.
I had rushed 50 Mile's one way from work to her house to respond to an "emergency".
I was clearly going to 1. Lose my job
2. Die from stress 3. Crash into something.
I told mom she needed to be somewhere where there were people around d all the time to help here. She fussed.
I said again, "Mom, I can't do this anymore".
I recommend you do the same.
I just threw the bridge and the bath & the Polident out in the trash when I moved her from the ALF to the MC she's currently living at.
Sometimes I would get so frustrated with my mom that I would say to her that it must be nice to be perfect!
Meds in general are controversial. People are confused. How is her health in general?
Some even feel they aren’t good for the elderly if they are fall risk. So she really would need to speak to her doctors first to see what is feasible for her situation.
Has she had a medical workup? She may not be 'depressed' but may be suffering from dementia or some other medical issue that hasn't been diagnosed. Argumentative behavior is VERY common with dementia, so perhaps she's starting down that road? In any event, see if you can get her to the PCP for a full work up.
GOOD LUCK!