My mother and father were married but lived separately. My husband and I lived with my mother for over 20 years in our house and my brother lived across town rarely visiting. My mother has been showing some signs of dementia for a few years now but nothing that was extremely concerning. My father passed away and within less than a month my mother whom I lived with and spoke to on the phone 3 or more times a day has stopped taking my calls after being moved to another state by my brother. I was unaware of this move until she was on a layover already in another state and she called me to say she wanted to come home. My mother gifted my brother "his half" of our house to thank him for helping her get the finances in order after dad died. Now, with her in another state my brother has kicked me out of my home (actually evicted me) leaving me and my husband homeless. I try to reach my mother and IF I'm able to the family members that she is now living with out of state monitors our call and hangs up the phone when the conversation turns to if she wants to come home. My mother has now begun to go along with saying that she is happy there and that I just need to find a new place to live and that she no longer owns the house. I am fairly certain my brothers wife is the one pulling his strings and from moments my mother says something before the phone is hung up i have gathered that my sister in law has changed my mother's life insurance policy. I need some direction as to where to start with this matter. I am now practically indigent. As my husband had an accident and became fully paralyzed about 2 months after my father passed away and has been in the hospital and care facilities since.
Sorry for your situation but there is a lot to unscramble with an attorney or social services to help you find services and a job. I am assuming you are not in retirement yet.
I suggest you contact your local Office of Aging and talk with them about what kind of benefits you might be able to receive, and for help finding a job. Also your local women's shelter for similar assistance. And as Alva said, the social workers involved in your husband's care.
Your husband is now hospitalized and in care and I know has Social Workers. I would access them to ask for help in getting your own guidance within the system.
You have really no questions for us as your mother is now in the care of your brother and seems happy to be so.
Certainly we strangers can have no answers for a situation this complex.
Your note to us DOES make the point to others that moving in with relatives, not having your own home, job, independence, can lead, when the elder "disappears" as in this case or by death, to life in a shelter.
This isn't something that we have not seen before.
Please call your local counsel on aging, check the shelter system, which may help you get established, start with beginner job (care facilities are screaming out there for all KINDS of help from kitchen to cleaning to care; you can work your way up with good job ethics). Try to move up with rental in someone else's home. Get all the pointers you can for help in this.
I am so very sorry for your husband and his health. I wish you well.
Maybe your brother believes that you are the one that was manipulating your Mom and living off of her.
This is a "she said/he said" post and there's nothing we can tell you except to take your evidence to an attorney if you want your Mom (and her money/assets) back.