My uncle is 79 yrs old and has several health issues. He is diabetic, I believe he might have the early symptoms of dementia. My uncle has yelled and called me derogatory names, hit me with a lamp so hard, it bruised my arm and caused severe pain. He has hit me with his cane on my chest and bruised my breasts. He has thrown hot coffee on my thigh. Although it was not scalding, it was still very hot. He has tried to push me and hit me with wet towels. He continuously calls me names. What options do I have? We do not have any other family members that are willing to help out
Abuse is not acceptable in any situation, and this goes way beyond simple abuse.
Call APS and leave him to rot.
Literally if need be.
I don’t think that I would go back. Call his doctor to see what can be done. Does he have finances for another caregiver? Although, no one will put up with abuse. You can try contacting Council on Aging for help or speak to a social worker for advice.
Wishing you luck with resolving this difficult situation. Please know that you are not obligated to care for him. If you do return be very cautious and call 911 at the very first sign of an outburst.
Stop the insanity NOW. You deserve more. You're allowing way too much abuse to happen to you and it has to stop right away.
Good luck taking your life back!
Make sure you document any abuse. Take pictures.
NO ONE, I mean NO ONE deserves to be abused in any way shape or form. So while you're trying to figure out why you allow this abuse, you need to leave your uncle's home and stop with his care. It doesn't matter that he has no one else to care for him. That is his problem, not yours. You owe him nothing!!!
Please have more respect for yourself, and quit allowing this abuse to go on.
Until you believe you deserve better, you will continue making the same mistakes over and over.
I hope and pray that you will be strong enough to tell your uncle that you're done with his care and abuse.
He may have a UTI. He may be having paranoid delusions.
I would leave and call Adult Protective Services to report him as a vulnerable adult.
If you are living with him, you call 911 and have him taken to the ER.
description of your uncle: "I am caring for Joe, who is 79 years old, living at home with age-related decline, anxiety, diabetes, hearing loss, heart disease, and mobility problems."
Joe is not only verbally abusive, but has clearly now crossed the line into physical abuse, also.
You have been in past abusive relationships and have been able to remove yourself from them (marriages).
Time to do that in your caregiving relationship with your uncle. And why do YOU take care of your uncle?
Can you explore with a therapist why it is that you seem to get yourself involved in abusive relationships?