My mother is 86 and still lives on her own. She is able to do most of her activities of daily living. However, she requires a lot of emotional support. She does have money and an LTC policy but until recently she thought that was for old people. So she muddles on, not walking very assuredly and feeling lonely. I talk with her everyday and I also stop by for quick errands like to grocery store. She does seem to have a lot of mini health issues - like diahrea, feeling wobbly or racing heart. During these times (almost weekly) she calls me to check on her and so I do. Add to the mix a man I met at my religious organization and we started dating last year. I even told him I am my mother’s lifeline since no other family are in town and most of her friends have passed and that I wasn’t sure I had enough energy to date since I am working and emotionally supporting my mother. We do get along and have a lot in common but sometimes I’m just too exhausted to go out or have him over. I do enjoy having him in my life. Have I taken on more than I can realistically handle right now? I’m mod 50s and he’s 68 with not a care in the world.
Take her to tour some Assisted Living .
She will get more support there .
Independent living is just meals laundry , housekeeping. You will still be exhausted.
Assisted Living can respond to her health episodes , and falls .