I have an elderly mother I have been careing for 14 years. My brother just started helping 2 years ago about 4 hours 5 days a week. He refuses to work weekends. He lives about 5 miles away. I have been do every weekend for 14 years. I need to do this on the weekend too. When it comes down to getting his inherentice he is expecting 50 percent while do 5 percent of the work. How can I get this straighten out. Im tired of being taken advantage of.
There are some ways to make the inheritence more equitable. One is to hire a caregiver to handle weekends. This money decreases the inheritence for both of you, but at least both of you have your weekends free.
Or, have personal care agreements drawn up for Mother to pay you each now. Your brother would get a proportinately smaller amount than you would, based on his smaller work contribution. In a way, this is getting part of your inheritence early.
And keep in mind, unless your mother has A LOT of assets, it is very possible that she will use them all up for a final illness. And neither of you will inherit much.