I know it's terrible but my Mother is afraid of Black women being mean to her..I KNOW that there are some wonderful caring women out there...but the dementia makes my mother paranoid...Should I tell the Home Health people or would that make them be mean to her?
Last Thursday, they sent out a Black lady that pounded on the door and my mother panicked and went to her room...somehow in the process she fell and got a concussion...
What would you do? I can't go home every day to let them in.
I used to own a home care business. That was a question we'd actually ask up front: is there anything we need to know before sending out the caregiver? And it often turned out that seniors would ask for no black caregivers, only to end up with one in a pinch, and then they'd love them. Happened all the time. Go figure. Or female clients wouldn't want a male caregiver. Very understandable.
I actually had a client who wanted a caregiver who spoke a certain language. Unfortunately we couldn't fulfill her wishes. It was some off-the-wall language. She wanted to keep using it.
Sharon
The Agency called and apologised One of these women left a broken glass just lying on the kitchen floor? then the other one left the front door open? I am not saying that they are all like this as i know its not a skin colour that makes you a good carer.
The agency will understand this and will try and accomodate your mums needs! This is tricky but if shes afraid then shes afraid so it needs to be addressed!
alot of immigrants came here in the boom and cargiving was an easy job to do as their english wasnt great and there was a huge need here BUT alot of them didnt have a caring bone in thier body!
Can i just point out that both these women are STILL working with old people????? I know scary!
Mom even feels that way about women sports announcers, she will say "what do they know about sports???".
I'm surprised Mom didn't go to only female cashiers at the grocery store, as woman know more about groceries than men ;)
My Mom doesn't like anyone who isn't of her own ethic group or of her own religion, she's been that way all her life and she learned that from her parents. Dad really doesn't care, but he will go alone with what Mom thinks to avoid an argument.
I know I will need to put my foot down and say if you don't allow the Caregivers, who are trained to help you, into the house then you will go without any help. Mom will expect me to help her and Dad.... it will be difficult but I will have to say "sorry, Mom, but I am too old to do that type of work, you will have to hire someone".
People of our parents' generations grew up differently, often with prejudices against other races. I don't think there's any way you can change that now, so just try to work around it even if it is an irrational fear.