My husband is away working in the forestry sector Sunday through Friday every week. His mother lives in his house with us. She has dementia, and it has been getting worse. She is demanding and petulant and doing things she shouldn’t be doing, like turning on the stove at night or climbing up on stools and hiding things.
The family naturally expects that I will stay there taking care of her 24/7 - they don’t understand how depressing and difficult it is for me. Now my own father has recently died and my mother is alone. I want to be able to spend time with her through the week, but I am tied to MIL. Her doctors feel she should be in assisted living, but the family doesn’t want that. I am about to leave my marriage over this, because I can’t do this anymore. Am I being an unreasonable?
If your husband, his family do not see what is needed here, you need to do what will keep you safe, mentally and physically. Do not put up with this potentially dangerous, and abusive, situation. Get out asap ... stay at an Air b'n'b until the family / your husband make needed arrangements.
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