My aunt is 93 years young and has dementia. She had no children but mothered all of her nieces and nephews. My mother’s children especially. My two sisters are retired and do absolutely nothing for her. They don’t even visit, one sister hasn’t seen her since Labor Day weekend 2018. The other since Christmas. Their calls are infrequent as well. Both called on Mother’s Day in a conference. Totally made my aunt crazy because the were both on the phone. One sister asked me, “What kind of support do I need?” I said, “the same support you’ve been giving, none. Better yet, come and get her for a few days and give me a break.” I heard crickets. They don’t want to come and take her but want to come to my house and stay with her. I said no. Was I wrong for saying that? I don’t get a minute for myself and would love to just veg out in My House. Helpppppppp
I will be taking Mother home for a few weeks soon and my brother plans on visiting for a week. I'm going to disappear for a few days so he can have some "bonding" time.
Take what you can get. It might shed some light on what your situation is like.
You are more hands on. That is a lot. When my friend's sis retired, friend said, Good, now it's your turn to take care of Mom! What would they do, if you dropped auntie off at their house for the weekend? Or are they too far away for you and aunt to drive to their homes?