On and off for over a year mum has lost mobility and interest in food. She's recently gone into care as even with 4 visits aday from carers it wasn't enough, but her health has deteriorated to the point she's bedbound refusing meals and liquid she's gone from a size 16 to 6 in clothes you can see all her bones and veins and all she wants to do is sleep. I visit most days and she just sleeps opens her eyes and shuts them doesn't even acknowledge me any more I'm heart broken and just don't know what to think or do anymore she's given up
Only the Good Lord knows the day and time that He will call your mum home, so in the meantime just make sure that you're spending as much time as you can with her and leave nothing left unsaid.
God bless you as you take this final journey with your mum.
Her heart did.
I am so very sorry, but she has lungs now that cannot sustain her. Her systems will go with heart and kidney failure following.
We all die. Aften at the end elders lose appetite. I encourage you to look on this as a good thing. They can no long "handle food" mechanically or indigestion.
This is the dying process at its most natural and I hope that Hospice will be brought in now to medicate your loved one so that there is no longer discomfort.
I am so sorry for your coming loss. My heart goes out to you.
I spent my life as a nurse. No one knows better than I do that the dying don't give up, but their bodies do. And they accept. They tire of life. Hard for a younger person to believe but they tell their nurses they are "exhausted with life" and long for the last good nap. My own dad told me that openly.
It's just so hard to watch and selfishly I want her tovhold me and say everything will be OK, Mums consultant at last hospital visit said I had anticipated grief and that it was normal as mum deteriorated on and off for so long but she just isn't coming round from this now I just don't know how much more I can sit and watch it happen to her she would be mortified if she was aware of what was happening to her
I do hope you have Hospice helping you/your mom.
It is not she that has given up...it is her body that has had enough and is doing what it is supposed to do.
As we die there is no need for food or fluids.
She is not going to experience hunger or thirst like you and I would.
To try to give her something to eat or drink would probably cause problems.
Keep her mouth and lips moist with a damp swab.
Just be with her, talk to her.