My husband, who has later stage Alzheimer's, seems to remember his morals and we have big battles over incontinence issues, like trying to make him take his pants down to sit on the toilet, or to change an adult diaper that has a load in it before he sits on it; also does anyone know a good method for cleaning a person after this happens, other than a bath or shower? Everything I try seems to provoke a battle. I am at the point where I think it best to just let him be, and let him sit in the mess, though in the end I will need to cope with the clean-up.
It went off the shelves for about a year because of manufacturing problems (some other product made in the same factory got recalled, I think), but it's back now AND available in generic, which is much cheaper.
Note: I found that some of the generics are corn dextrin instead of wheat dextrin. Although the Benefiber label says "gluten free," the product is made from wheat. I think that a product can be labeled "gluten free" and still have an itsy bitsy teeny tiny bit of gluten in it, so people with serious Celiac disease might want to look for an alternate brand that is made from corn, not wheat, just to be sure.
She admitted it happens almost daily. A few years ago she was bellyaching over not being able to go often enough. I pray you find a satisfying solution for your husband and yourself. Good advice on here, but as you know, different solutions for different people and different problems. God bless!
Note: If he had lived longer, my plans were to get a bidet installed somehow. (Our only bathroom toilet was not accessible due to the size of his wheelchair).
I have had to deal with this one a lot. My Mom has always been a very very modest and discreet little lady, so I know how much it bothers her even though she has dementia. All I can say is what I do. Mom pretty much lives in her lift chair these days...other than to let me help her get up and place her in her wheelchair or on her rollator when necessary...OR to go to the bathroom..for which I have to bring her chair potty to her....I place the potty in front of the chair at a slight angle so she can reach it but I can get to her feet once she sits down on the potty . Once I raise the chair, she can easily hang onto the hand rails and I help her turn to get onto it. Before she sits down, using safety scissors, I cut the sides of her pull up pants on each side and that way I can pull them off without having to pull them over her legs . While she is on the potty, I bathe her, this is also how I have to wash her hair. I put her pants on while she is sitting and pull them up over her knees and then when she stands facing her chair and holding that, I can easily clean her with the adult cleaning wipes...they have wonderful ones at the Dollar Store that are the larger size and work so much better than the baby wipes...on the larger messes I use toilet paper to get all messy off her then use the cleaning wipes to thoroughly clean her...I am so thankful that after two years, thus far we have had no issues with any skin rashes or sores....I know this is graphic but this has worked really well for us....I am able to help her when most people cannot...and God bless her, we make a pretty good team... :)
Could you put a light robe on him backwards when he needs to sit on the toilet. That would give him privacy from the front and might make him feel better about the situation. You and I may think that is silly. You have no doubt seem him naked countless times. But if it gives him comfort, it is worth a try.
I installed a bidet in our toilet, to help with cleaning dear husband's backside.