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We have a small home picked out and want to know what the best way for this transition is? We will be bringing her bed and dresser with her but want to know the best way to support her in this move.
When I placed my Mom she was maybe in her 6th stage. Someone stayed with her why we moved her furniture to her room at the AL. I did not tell her what was happening until we were in the car and she asked where we were going. I told her to her own apt where she will meet new people. My Mom acclimated very well, I was lucky.
Sheand, welcome to the forum. For my elderly Dad, when he moved into senior living, I made sure his bedroom was set up identical to the one he had at home. That way if he woken in the middle of the night, he knew he was in his own bedroom.
Another thing, if there are things that your Mom really treasured, if possible, bring those items. For my Dad it was all his books, and luckily his bookcases were able to fit in his room. Those books made Dad feel more secure.
By "we have a small home picked out" I assume you mean your mom is moving into a Board and Care (guessing as you mention taking a few items of furniture of her own)?
So much is individual. We don't really know your mom nor her readiness/willingness to go into care. We don't know her personality or how she's handling the grief of her loss. They always caution that it's wise not to make many sudden changes, moves and etc., thus adding to the drastic change of the death of a loved one. But as I say we don't KNOW your mom or her readiness. She may in fact be EAGER to get to where she is going, to make new friends, to be relieved of the caregiving she may have been doing in the recent past.
I would say just "be there". You helped arrange the choice here. You and she agree that this is the time for this move. That's a great start. Now just be there. Grief is very individual and unpredictable. Accept that there will be mourning, that there will be adjustments, and most of all LISTEN to her. Don't explain why this HAD to happen, why this is BEST to happen now; just LISTEN. When it's a tough day know it's a bad weather system you have to get through by sympathizing, understanding, and accepting that not everything in aging is positive, or has an answer. Some things just have to be lived with. And through.
My brother when he entered care had more than a few reactions: 1. "This is a bit like being young and in the army, hon. I don't much like it, but I make the best of it" 2. "I think I missed commune living when we two were young. But I imagine it's kind of like this. We have community meetings in the cottage to work out arguments about who wants the blinds UP in the dining room and who wants them DOWN."
He was pragmatic, kind, always trying to let us know it wasn't perfect but he was OK. One of a kind, and a gentle soul, and I hope mom is similar. I wish you all the very best.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Another thing, if there are things that your Mom really treasured, if possible, bring those items. For my Dad it was all his books, and luckily his bookcases were able to fit in his room. Those books made Dad feel more secure.
Hope everything works out for your Mom :)
So much is individual. We don't really know your mom nor her readiness/willingness to go into care. We don't know her personality or how she's handling the grief of her loss. They always caution that it's wise not to make many sudden changes, moves and etc., thus adding to the drastic change of the death of a loved one.
But as I say we don't KNOW your mom or her readiness. She may in fact be EAGER to get to where she is going, to make new friends, to be relieved of the caregiving she may have been doing in the recent past.
I would say just "be there". You helped arrange the choice here. You and she agree that this is the time for this move. That's a great start.
Now just be there. Grief is very individual and unpredictable. Accept that there will be mourning, that there will be adjustments, and most of all LISTEN to her. Don't explain why this HAD to happen, why this is BEST to happen now; just LISTEN. When it's a tough day know it's a bad weather system you have to get through by sympathizing, understanding, and accepting that not everything in aging is positive, or has an answer. Some things just have to be lived with. And through.
My brother when he entered care had more than a few reactions:
1. "This is a bit like being young and in the army, hon. I don't much like it, but I make the best of it"
2. "I think I missed commune living when we two were young. But I imagine it's kind of like this. We have community meetings in the cottage to work out arguments about who wants the blinds UP in the dining room and who wants them DOWN."
He was pragmatic, kind, always trying to let us know it wasn't perfect but he was OK.
One of a kind, and a gentle soul, and I hope mom is similar. I wish you all the very best.