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Other than knowing that they're loved and will be kept safe and be taken care whether at home or in a facility, there's not much else they need to know as they probably won't remember it anyway.
I think they need to know that it is critical they get all their legal ducks in a row asap: choose a PoA who is a full generation younger than themselves (or at least make this person the Alternate) and is willing, local, reliable, trustworthy and competent; don't make the PoA authority activation onerous (just 1 diagnosis of sufficient impairment); create a Advance Healthcare Directive or POLST that is discussed with their doctor so that it has specifics in it; a Pre-Need Guardian choice; a Last Will; guidance about what to do with their body and what type of final service they want. Once the legal docs are set up, the PoA needs to submit the paperwork to every one of your doctors, banks and financial institutions. Maybe even consider setting up a trust.
They need to come to grips with the possibility that their trajectory may require facility care and they need to assure their LOs that this is ok. They may even want to tour places and pick one out in advance (have an opinion) to take some of that burden and guesswork off of family.
If these things aren't in place early, then the LO with ALZ needs to know they will lose control of what happens to them. No PoA means that the family may be forced to pursue guardianship through the courts -- which is expensive, time-consuming and stressful; or a judge will assign a 3rd party legal guardian who is not a family member if the family can't get guardianship themselves. This happens A LOT.
1.)You have to get all the "legal stuff" taken care of ASAP
2.)If you are going to be the caregiver for anyone other than a spouse you MUST get fairly compensated for what you are doing. (If the above is the case have a caregiver agreement or contract done)
3.) SAFETY. If you are not safe being a caregiver or if the person you are caring for is not safe reassess options. (for this reason NEVER agree that you will never place ________in a facility)
4.) a) learn to ask for help b) learn to accept help
5) Turn over every rock you can that will help you find programs that will help make caregiving easier
6.) Get Hospice on board as soon as possible. The help, services and peace of mind are invaluable.
7.) Accept that the decline will get worse, no magic pills, vitamins, coconut oil, snake oil will help.
8.) Know that you will lose friends cuz they just don't get it. But part of that might be because you forget you need to make time for them as well. I guess it is the adage...Take care of yourself first. So make time for friends. Getting back to # 4... If someone says "if there is anything I can do...." say "Could you pick up a gallon of milk for me and bring it over when you get a chance and I will make a cup of Chai and we can sit and chat. Afternoons are best cuz mom sleeps after lunch"
there are plenty more but you asked for 8. If you get 100 responses you potentially could have 800 "things people should know" But every one with dementia is different so are the people caring for them so you have to find the 8 that are important and relative to you and your situation.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I think they need to know that it is critical they get all their legal ducks in a row asap: choose a PoA who is a full generation younger than themselves (or at least make this person the Alternate) and is willing, local, reliable, trustworthy and competent; don't make the PoA authority activation onerous (just 1 diagnosis of sufficient impairment); create a Advance Healthcare Directive or POLST that is discussed with their doctor so that it has specifics in it; a Pre-Need Guardian choice; a Last Will; guidance about what to do with their body and what type of final service they want. Once the legal docs are set up, the PoA needs to submit the paperwork to every one of your doctors, banks and financial institutions. Maybe even consider setting up a trust.
They need to come to grips with the possibility that their trajectory may require facility care and they need to assure their LOs that this is ok. They may even want to tour places and pick one out in advance (have an opinion) to take some of that burden and guesswork off of family.
If these things aren't in place early, then the LO with ALZ needs to know they will lose control of what happens to them. No PoA means that the family may be forced to pursue guardianship through the courts -- which is expensive, time-consuming and stressful; or a judge will assign a 3rd party legal guardian who is not a family member if the family can't get guardianship themselves. This happens A LOT.
Plus, what funkygrandma59 wrote.
Plan for the worst, hope for the best.
2.)If you are going to be the caregiver for anyone other than a spouse you MUST get fairly compensated for what you are doing.
(If the above is the case have a caregiver agreement or contract done)
3.) SAFETY. If you are not safe being a caregiver or if the person you are caring for is not safe reassess options.
(for this reason NEVER agree that you will never place ________in a facility)
4.) a) learn to ask for help
b) learn to accept help
5) Turn over every rock you can that will help you find programs that will help make caregiving easier
6.) Get Hospice on board as soon as possible. The help, services and peace of mind are invaluable.
7.) Accept that the decline will get worse, no magic pills, vitamins, coconut oil, snake oil will help.
8.) Know that you will lose friends cuz they just don't get it. But part of that might be because you forget you need to make time for them as well. I guess it is the adage...Take care of yourself first. So make time for friends. Getting back to # 4... If someone says "if there is anything I can do...." say "Could you pick up a gallon of milk for me and bring it over when you get a chance and I will make a cup of Chai and we can sit and chat. Afternoons are best cuz mom sleeps after lunch"
there are plenty more but you asked for 8.
If you get 100 responses you potentially could have 800 "things people should know"
But every one with dementia is different so are the people caring for them so you have to find the 8 that are important and relative to you and your situation.