My mom just turned 66. She’s been living with me for a few years since a long hospitalization, a year of hospice, and being diagnosed with COPD and becoming oxygen dependent. She’s still extremely active. It blows my mind sometimes, but I cannot live with her anymore. I’ve reached my limit. She has taken over my entire house. I practically live in my room. She has visitors over all the time. She’s noisy. The phone is constantly ringing. She gets confused working a tv, a toaster oven, a flip cell phone, etc and is in CONSTANT need of reminding how to use these things among others. She’s accident prone because she doesn’t focus on what she’s doing. She’s recently had a couple fender benders. I’m doing this all alone with her and I’m on disability myself with severe depression, anxiety, and back injuries. There’s literally no siblings or any other family. I NEED HELP! Please! I’m afraid to just pick any organization. Can someone please recommend a place that can help my mom choose a place? She’s on SSI and she doesn’t want to live with severely elderly people and she she doesn’t want to lose too much of her independence. If we can’t find a perfect place for her she will never agree to go! Thanks to anyone that read this and offers any advice.
Yes, thank you for your response. I am definitely worried about the financial aspect because my mom gets SSI a monthly check of less than $800, but she has medicade and medicare. I heard that the insurance helps, but I’m not sure if I’m getting correct information. What is a place for mom and other organizations that help you find a facility? I saw one on this site too. Are they safe to use? I’m going to need help finding a place that will accept my mom and her financial limitations. Is there any other specific details that would be helpful?
(sorry, I can't really advise what is available because I don't know where you live)
Your local agency on aging can do a needs assessment and should have good advice about the options available in your area.