He has congestive heart failure. His dementia continues to get worse. He is exhibiting a lot of verbal and physical abuse with healthcare people. Neurologist and Doctor advise me he is not safe to take home and that I should start looking at a nursing home that will provided the best care for him. I am overwhelmed. How do you know you have made the right decision and how do you live with it? We have been married 50 years. And yes he has show these behaviors at home with me.
The hospital should have a social worker to help you find a good facility; if not please call your local Area Agency on Aging for a social worker to help you. SWs know all the facilities and payment methods so they can really help you find the right place. I suggest asking the SW for 2-3 facilities in your area that could meet your husband's needs, then take a tour of them to pick the one you like best.